Taking things further

Start by communicating online using the facilities on the site you have joined. In this way your anonymity is preserved while you get to know your contact better.

* Don't give out any details about yourself (especially contact details) until you feel comfortable in doing so.

* Take your time. Don't rush into anything.

* If you feel you're being rushed by another Member then slow it down or walk away. You're under no obligation to meet anyone or reveal anything you don't want to.

* If you feel concerned by anything walk away and let us know of anything you think is odd or unpleasant.

* If you are suspicious of anything a person says, inconsistencies, reticence, anything at all that makes you unsure then don't continue the dialogue.

* Ask for a photo.

* Before arranging to meet chat on the phone.

* Ask friends what they think and don't be shy to ask for a second opinion.

* If at any time you feel pressured, threatened, or just uncomfortable with the contact, report your concerns to the site administration.

Having said all that don't be discouraged. People tend to have a surprising level of integrity despite the gloomy picture portrayed by the media. Follow this advice and trust your instincts and you will be safe.