How To Enjoy A Stress Free First Date

Your first date does not need to be stressful. Take some time to plan a relaxing date where the conversation flows. This is a time for your date to see your shining personality, so keep anxiety and nervousness at bay. Remember, you don’t have to walk down the aisle with this person. Just have fun and enjoy some common interests together. Who knows, you could make a lasting friendship.

Before your date, spend some time talking on the phone or online to get familiar with each other’s personalities. Keep the conversation light and positive. Having previous conversations before the date relieves some of the pressure to find topics to discuss. Use good communication and listen carefully when the other person is speaking. Ask questions to show your interest. Body language says a lot during a conversation. Look your date in the eye and lean toward her, showing that you really want to learn more about her life.

Decide beforehand if you and your date will ride to the venue together or separately. Do what makes you feel comfortable. Choose a casual venue with a comfortable atmosphere, like a sporting event, bowling or a picnic in the park. The activity should be one that both you and your date are interested in. If you have future dates, take turns deciding the activities. Dress appropriately to participate in an activity like rock climbing.

Take a change of clothes if you go to a more intimate dinner afterwards. By changing clothes, your date will see your casual personality as well as how you “clean up.” It’s like “two for the price of one.” The person who initiated the date should feel obligated to pay for dinner and other activities. If your date is adamant about going dutch, this should be discussed before the date to avoid an awkward situation of trying to decide when the check comes.

To kiss or not to kiss? That is the question. During the course of the date, you will know if there are any sparks. It could just be too early to tell. A hug or peck on the cheek is always a safe option. It takes the pressure off and provides a hint of mystery and anticipation for the next date, if there is one. You might make plans to see each other again or decide that you had fun and decide to move on.

Happy Dating!

A New Twist for a First Date

Before planning a first date, always talk to the other party for a little while and ask some key questions like 'What do you like to do for fun?' Listen carefully to what that other person is saying so you can steer your first date into a very successful adventure!

Is your prospective date a daring sports enthusiast? If so, hook up with your local paint ball site by checking on the web and have a great first date aiming to hit the target! While paint ball equipment can be rented for pretty minimal costs, make sure to wear clothes that cover you up from head to toe, because the paint balls can sting if they hit bare skin.

Do you think your prospective sweetie is more of the indoors type? Then check with the local cooking schools and sign up for a class on how to prepare some gorgeous meal together. Cooking always represents a nurturing and caring spirit, and cooking together could help nurture your relationship to new heights!

So what if your prospective date is really adventurous and loves the chills and thrills of things? Then do a little on line research to find out the nearest haunted house. Get a little information on the background of the place, and head out there for a night time of hauntingly good happenings! Some of the well known places have their own “Ghost Buster tours” so make sure you verify what access is available to the public so you can ensure the scariest time of your lives!

If you've caught on that your prospective cutie is more of an art lover, then pick a beautiful local spot, like a botanical garden and head out there with digital cameras on hand. Make a scavenger hunt list for things that have to be found, and help each other discover the beauty in all of the wonders of nature! Right after all the pictures have been snapped, head over to a one hour photo service together to have the prints done in a cute little memory book; it's a way to remember this first date forever!

Always remember there are many exciting and very enjoyable ways to spend your first date, and they all begin with a little extra care in planning which direction to steer the love boat!

Taking things further

Start by communicating online using the facilities on the site you have joined. In this way your anonymity is preserved while you get to know your contact better.

* Don't give out any details about yourself (especially contact details) until you feel comfortable in doing so.

* Take your time. Don't rush into anything.

* If you feel you're being rushed by another Member then slow it down or walk away. You're under no obligation to meet anyone or reveal anything you don't want to.

* If you feel concerned by anything walk away and let us know of anything you think is odd or unpleasant.

* If you are suspicious of anything a person says, inconsistencies, reticence, anything at all that makes you unsure then don't continue the dialogue.

* Ask for a photo.

* Before arranging to meet chat on the phone.

* Ask friends what they think and don't be shy to ask for a second opinion.

* If at any time you feel pressured, threatened, or just uncomfortable with the contact, report your concerns to the site administration.

Having said all that don't be discouraged. People tend to have a surprising level of integrity despite the gloomy picture portrayed by the media. Follow this advice and trust your instincts and you will be safe.

Meeting People

If you arrange to meet somebody through the site exercise the same caution as you would on any date. Be sensible and trust your instincts. These tips may sound a little alarming to some while over cautious to others, but it's been found that 'common sense' is not as common as it should be!

* Use your judgement and be responsible.

* Meet in a public place.

* Tell friends where you are going.

* Take a mobile phone with you.

* Do not pass on any contact information (e.g. your home phone number or your address) until you feel comfortable doing so.

* If your date presses you for this information walk away. By going on a date you are under no obligations to reveal more than you choose.

* If, for any reason, you feel uncomfortable during the date then leave.

* Guard your drink to ensure that it is not spiked. If you're concerned, make sure you get your own drinks.

* Treat your date with respect. If you feel you don't click it's better to let them know (even if it's a made-up excuse) rather than getting your a coat and doing a runner without telling them.

* If your date is not keen on meeting again please don't feel that you've been rejected. Different people look for different things. There are more people on the site! You may not meet the right person on your first date.